The leader/founder of the home group that we attend recommended this
book for the men, when we were meeting weekly at Bob Evans at 6am (sick, I
know). It's a fairly short book, but long enough to be effective at relaying
the author's ideas. The basic premise behind it is to relay
the deliberate and
extensive effort by Mr. Friedman to determine which values and
knowledge to teach and instill into his children, and how to
actively attempt to accomplish it. As a parent, it seems
to me like it's easy to feel like I'm in survival mode and
trying hard enough to take care of the kids, the "stuff", ourselves
(if/when possible), and maybe encourage the kids to take some
extra-curricular activities. But this book helped to persuade me how effective it can be in determining
which goals to help your children pursue and then being extensive
and purposeful in planning their success, as much as possible
anyway.
I don't agree with
all of the specific items on his list of things to teach/train to
his kids (some seemed geared to aggressively push the kids into a
position of ministry), but I
really like his simple yet
brilliant idea of being
intentional about being engaged in teaching/learning/guiding. In addition to these
useful ideas, I enjoyed (and am still enjoying) Appendix 2 of the
book, which is the "Hidden in the Heart" Catechism. Here he
provides a list of 126 basic, essential theological and
family-oriented questions to discuss with your kids to help them
commit basic Christian premises to heart/memory. I'm trying to periodically
ask one or two at dinnertime, as a way to not only provide an
interesting dinner table discussion, but also to help them grow
spiritually/mentally.
This book wasn't the most exciting I've read, nor was it a
theological revelation, but I think Mr. Friedeman's ideas have the
ability to utilize your children's potential in a way that not much
else can.